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Thursday, September 27, 2018

{Article} THE IMPACT OF THE SOCIETY ON RELATIONSHIPS By Muritala Adedamola Ruth & Olanigba Tobiloba Iseoluwa

PART ONE
By Muritala Adedamola Ruth
A final year student of English and International Relations, Osun State University, Osogbo.

You see, in the world we live in now, before we can ask a girl out or say yes to a guy, we first of all consider the society's terms. That is, giving it a thought if your friends, families and even your enemies will like such a person (especially considering his background).

Having seen that your bestie's partner is beautiful/handsome, rich, classic and eloquent, you wouldn't want to settle for something less.
And this is what affects most of us, LOVE is no longer in the definition of relationship; what we find now is LUST.....Lust for beauty, riches, power et al. And that's why short term relationships are very common.

Remember that everyone around you constitute the society regardless of your relationship.
So you see some people thinking twice before considering a girl or guy cus of what the society will say.
Especially amongst youths, undergraduates(females)wouldn't date except he's working already cus they don't want to feel below the trending class.

Literates can't partner with illiterates not because they can't or don't love each other but cus of the society's judgement.
Yay/No?

Some people just dive into relationship not cus they're ready but cus they want to fit into the society's standard.
Fine, it's good to seek that which is good but remember _"Not everything that looks good is GOOD"_

In a discussion with my mum sometimes ago, while discussing about a prominent celebrity who just delivered @ a late age, she said it happened cus Money overruled love. But take a look @ it from another perspective, getting married @ a late age shouldn't call for discrimination or judgement cus a thing led to another for that to have happened.
Society wants this, society wants that. But when we ain't capable of giving what the society wants, what then happens???πŸ™‡πŸ»‍♀πŸ™‡‍♂
Its Depression.
You know there are certain things society demands from relationships(either in marriage or courtship)

Let's always endeavor to do whatever we feel is right
Cus when we left alone with the aftermath of actions taken considering the society's terms, the same society wouldn't be there for us.




PART TWO
By Olanigba Tobiloba Iseoluwa
A Graduate of English and International Relations, Osun State University, Osogbo.

Society and Relationship.. It's very funny how things that don't make us break us these days including our relationship(s)..You see a girl or a guy you love instead of considering the standards we have made for ourselves, we consider what the society would say about such guy or girl..You wonder if the society would accept your relationship.. For instance ; I was having a chat with a close uncle a while ago based on the facts that most of my friends are married and he was like "when are you getting married" I was so surprised at this question but I told him marriage is not what I want in the next few years.Guess what he said; My dear a girl should start dreaming about marriage at age 18, it should be in your agenda ,when you see a man that's ready and he's capable of handling your responsibilities what else?


Then I realised that's what the society is saying these days, we don't build our relationship on love anymore but on societal standard..You love a girl but she is not from a well to do family ,instead of you loving her the way she is ,the first thing you consider is what will the society say(I'm a man of class and status, won't people blame me for marrying someone from an average family?)...Society has painted how a relationship should be ,so when your relationship is not reflecting that picture you think you are in the wrong relationship..

But why🀷‍♀ Relationship is about two individuals with two independent minds that can reason.You should paint your own original picture of how you want your relationship to be not how the society wants it to be, not how your friends want it to be,just how you want it to be.

Simply because your girl doesn't go to club but u do, as well as ur friends and their girlfriends so they make you think she is not worth keeping because she is considered not sophisticated and you begin to frustrate life out of her..What is your problem🀷‍♀

Simply because your boyfriend/partner doesn't take you out on romantic dates you think he is not the one simply because the society gave you the impression that Roman to date is part of love....Please what exactly is your problem??

We have to come to a point of level up where we have to stand for our own individual truths not the societal truth..we have to stop the society from influencing our life decisions because in the end it's not the society that will get married

Let's all remember that it takes a mammoth crowd to make a wedding but it takes two great minds to make a marriage happen..


Connect with the writers on Instagram

Muritala Adedamola Ruth
@Bihhordun


Olanigba Tobiloba Iseoluwa
@Iseoluwa_abefe

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